I came across an article on huffingtonpost.com by Kara Wahlgren entitled, “5 Wedding Details You Can Stop Overthinking,” and this got me thinking… there are WAAAYYYY more than five! I mean, let’s be real.
I’ve been in more than my fair share (“more” and “than” being the operative words) of weddings, and as such, I feel as though spending a decade of my life as a habitual bridesmaid, I’ve earned my stripes. Heck, not just my stripes! I’ve also earned my plaids, polka dots, patterns, prints and plains, as well. Oh, you think I’m kidding? I’m not. Stop by any time and take a gander at the good ‘ole closet… you might be shocked at first, but you’ll soon realize, you’re looking at the real life 27 Dresses :)
And because I’ve been so closely involved in so many weddings, I’ve also been privy to so many brides. Trust(&)Believe. I’ve seen them all. The Normals – those who fall somewhere between one or more of the following groups… The DIY Disasters – the ones who need help with e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. The Good Managers — which sadly, is the smallest selection. The Freaker Outters — you know who you are :) The cool-calm-and-collected-until-the-very- Last Minuters — guilty :) And last, but certainly not least, the Bridezilla-er’s (haha!) — whhhhy?? Haven’t they seen the show? Haven’t they heard the term? Have they no shame? Why, ladies… just why?
Now, what stinks about being involved in a wedding – be it as a ‘maid, a mom, a planner, an extra, etc. – with a Bridezilla is that the entire celebration becomes lost. It’s no longer about the day and what they day means. It’s all about drama of all the must-be-perfect-or-I’ll-just-die details… and the just checking in phone calls… and / or text messages… and emails… and fittings and run-throughs and “quick” trips and invitation creation sessions… ugh, you get the picture… Everyone is haphazardly buried under and suffocated by the knowledge that everything HAS TO BE RIGHT that they lose site of and interest in the actual and awesome reason behind what started the bridezilla takeover in the first place — you’re getting married and joining your life with the man you love! I mean, hello!??! Can I get a “Yay!”
With all that said, best advice I can give any bride must first be met with an urgently important disclaimer. Bridezillas, you might want to make sure you’re sitting down for this…
DISCLAIMER: something – despite all the planning and hours and double / triple / Buzz Lighter to infinity and beyond checking – something WILL go wrong.
<GASPS!> That’s right, ladies. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the sooner you accept this knowledge, the sooner you can start to relax and get back to the real reason of the day… You get to say “I do” to your #1 boo :) <SQUEE!>
Now that the disclaimer is out of the way, here’s the advice, which I urge you all to remember:
BEST ADVICE: No matter what goes wrong (I know, I know – you don’t like thinking about it – sorry!), at the end of the day, you still get to be your man’s Mrs. You get to marry him and love him and be with him for all future bumps, blessings and otherwise. So, smile, breath, relax, and above all, love that this is the day you get to say, “I do.”