Let’s face it: getting married today is not like is was 50 years ago – heck, 30 years ago if we’re being realistic – and 10, if we’re completely honest :) Brides and weddings today are no longer the cookie cutter ceremonies of our grandparent’s era – no sir! In fact, they are very far from it.
Recently, I had the extreme fortune of being a part of such a discussion with my grandma, good ‘ole Dottie :) Now, you see, Dottie, is from a very, very old school of thought. Turning 87 this year, her and my grandfather have been married for 64 years! And that, my friends, is nothing to shake a stick at!
Anyhoot, in lieu of my baby brother getting married this weekend, there has been nothing but wedding around the family water coolers, and as Jamie – the future bride-to-be – was discussing some of the final details of seating chart drama, Gramma Dottie couldn’t help but let out a large, low, long winded whistle, commenting, “Man, this sure ain’t like it used to be. We served cold cuts at our reception, and there wasn’t all this fiddle about who could sit with whom or who was or wasn’t speaking to, for or against the other… eesh.” Another long whistle and she was gone. Haha!
This got me thinking about how much really has changed and how dissimilar things really are… how dynamic and different each couple’s situation is. Today’s bride, not only comes in all sorts of shapes, sizes and styles, but she also comes from a completely different background, school of thought and altogether situation in general. Couples today aren’t just marrying each other, pending their age, race and religion match. No way. No how. More and more couples today – in fact – are marrying who they want, how they want and when they want.
Sometimes, (Gramma, close your ears) sometimes, couples even choose to not get married at all! Sometimes, they just live together with no deadline or direction on making it official And when (or if) they do choose to make it official, for some, it might not be the first time they did. For some, it might be the second or third or fourth time around! I think you get my point…
Marriages today are extremely unique – each providing a different situation to the next, and one area I’ve really seen this being broadcasted is in the wedding showers! Recently, I’ve attended several of these “unique circumstances” showers, and it was very interesting the take some took. Whether it was the couple’s second marriage or they’d already been living together or because they were getting married later in life and already had everything they needed, each shower was structured in the same uinique way as the couple, and it was very fun to be a part of! Below are some examples:
- Let’s Hear it for a Holiday Theme. I went to one shower that was holiday themed. The couple had been living together for several years and had pretty much already established all the typical shower stuff (ie. plates, appliances, kitchen utensils, towels, etc.). So, they thought it would be fun to have a shower where each guest bring some sort of holiday decor — be it for Christmas, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Valentine’s Day etc. That way, when they were decorating for all the most festive times of the year, they’d have all the ones they loved with them as well :)
- Looking to Build on Love. For another shower, the bride and groom had both previously been married with children but had been living separately. After months of searching, they finally found a home that would accomodate both families post nuptials – an old, super duper, fixer upper. While neither one was keen on having a shower – as they both still had gifts from the first time around – their families insisted. Hence, the Live off Lowe’s gift card shower was born! Rather than going out and spending money on new place settings, the couple received money to go towards fixing up their new home. Absolutely loved this!
- Not Big Enough for a Shower, just a Little Sprinkle instead. (This is mayhaps my favorite!) In this case, neither the bride or groom had been married before, but they were both in their forties, well established in their careers and home appliances. Therefore, the couple’s friends chose to give them both a “Sprinkle” where they rented out a room at their favorite restaurant – the one where they went on their first date – and had guests bring well wishes, favorite stories or marital advice for the soon to be newlyweds. It was sosososooo cute, and the couple really loved it!
- Wine for the Win! Okay, this was my favorite :) Haha! In this case, the futire Mr. and Mrs. were huge wine connoisseurs and collectors. So, rather than have a typical shower, they threw a party for friends and family and simply asked that each bring their favorite bottle of wine to help fill their cellar with love, support and above all, the deliciousness of fermented grapes :)
So, you see, no matter what the situation, just find the one that’s right for you, and if it hasn’t already been invented, be the trailblazer and make a new one! Who knows, you might just end up being a trendsetter too :)