If writing your own wedding vows is something you value as a couple, I would whole-heartedly suggest giving them plenty of time to perfect before putting them on display in front of all your family and friends. Because knowing how you feel about your Mr. or Mrs. is the easy part; putting that love into words, however, can often times be tricky. And because added stress is the last thing any soon-to-be-wed couple needs, we’re here to help!
With more and more of today’s modern Mr. and Mrs.’es constructing their ceremonies around their own personal likes, dislikes and personalities, it’s easy to see why personalizing your vows has become increasingly valuable throughout the years. Not only is it a great way to offer a new and interesting twist to the traditional wedding ceremony, but it also allows your guests to take a closer look at what your love is all about.
If you plan to write your own vows from scratch, you will want to start off by determining if you will repeat the same thing to each other or if you want to say something completely different and unique. Once you have decided on the type of vows you want to incorporate, it’ll be easier to determine where to go from there!
If you’re starting from scratch but aren’t exactly the Master of Ceremonies when it comes to speech writing… RELAX. Writing doesn’t come easy to a lot of people. So, it’s important to keep an open mind. Try making a list of key words and phrases you know you want to include in your wedding vows like; soul mates, honesty, I love you, you are my best friend, my moral compass, my favorite comedian, etc. This task is a lot less daunting and having this list of go-to words and phrases will be especially helpful when writer’s block rears its ugly head. Plus, the informality of writing simple one word catch phrases and quips makes the whole process seem A LOT easier and WAAAY less stressful.
Now, if you’re still at a loss for what to even write for your prompts, try thinking about these:
- Consider keystone events that the two of you had experienced both prior to and after meeting:
- Think about how your life was before you met and fell in love with each other
- Recall how you met
- What you felt the first time you kissed each other
- Think about the moment you got engaged
- What you feel about building a future with each other.
- Did he/she do something to that changed your life?
- At what moment did you know you wanted to marry him/her?
Recalling special events or moments that pertain to one another will make your wedding vows easier to compose, and once they’re complete, feel free to practice in front of a trusted friend and family member to gain some outside perspective on an inside emotion. Getting feedback from an outside party will help determine if you vows are ready for your wedding day. And if worse comes to worse – and there is absolutely no way you can write it on your own – try starting or ending with your favorite Scripture reading, inspirational quote or love song except :)
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